The Ritual of the Throat is not to be undertaken lightly. In fact, I recommend it be used only in extremis.
It echoes the way a wolf will show subordination by lying on its back and baring its unprotected neck to the dominant animal. Such complete submission will usually end the fight. It means giving away one's control.
The Ritual of the Throat happened between the Girl and the Wild One, under the moon in the town of Thomasville, Georgia, in the backyard of the house of Brother yiB. The location is not important, and is only mentioned to tell you that such things can happen anywhere.
The ritual came about as a way to allow the Girl to remove suicide as an option. It is probably the only reason she is alive today.
Requirements: Two people with long-term, absolute trust: The One who is giving up control, and the Other who is taking it. The Other must currently have no, and never have had any, thoughts of suicide.
Purpose: For One to give up up control of hir death to the Other, and to take on the Other's will to live. One does not give up control of one's life; only control of one's death.
Preparation: It is important to be in a state of total openness yet capable of total focus -- near gnosis but conscious. How you get there depends on you, but I suggest it take at least an hour. Use meditation, or music, or drumming, or, if you must, chemical enhancements; combinations of techniques work, too. (If you use music, pick it carefully.) Get to that head-space where you're There and Everywhere at once.
Execution: The One dealing with death wishes is taken first. The Other takes throat in hand firmly, enough to make it clear that it could choke, but not enough actually threaten life.
"Your throat is mine. Your death is mine. You can no longer threaten yourself, because you do not control your death anymore. It is out of your hands. Death is no longer an option. You may not kill yourself. Your throat is mine."
Remain in that position, repeating similar words until it seems right to stop.
When letting go of the throat, the Other should drag the fingers across it and into a ball as contact is lost, as if taking the immaterial essense into the hand. The taker should feel it, own it, then raise the hand and spread it on hir own throat. "Your throat is mine."
Take time to re-center before continuing. The One should have time to let it sink in that s/he no longer even has a throat to be cut or to be offered elsewhere -- the metaphor should stand for all methods of suicide. Breath together. Kiss if that's appropriate, breathing into each other's mouths.
The One takes the Other's throat, reaching past the veil of the second throat, the taken throat, overlying the physical neck of the Other. Hold it gently, caressingly, like something treasured.
"Your throat is mine. Your life is mine. I can no longer threaten myself, because I would be threatening you. I will not kill you. Death is not an option. Your throat is my own."
As above, when letting go of the throat, the One should drag the fingers across it and into a ball as contact is lost, as if taking the immaterial essense into the hand. The taker should feel it, own it, then raise the hand and spread it on hir own throat. "Your throat is mine."
Re-center again. The throat of the One lives now on the Other, and the throat of the Other replaces that of the One.
End: Shout together whatever version of "So mote it be!" is appropriate.
Seal: After ending, seal this exchange. Sex is most recommended: Given the nature of the rite, sex is more life-affirming than a blood exchange. Make the seal intense and mutual.
Notes: Again, this does not exchange control over *life*, only control over death. Do not do this with someone unless it is necessary. Do this only where there is an asymmetry of attitudes: one death-seeking, the other life-affirming. Two suicidal people probably could not prop each other up this way.
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