Reader's feedback, Feb 2004
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Subject: help me
Date: Friday, February 27, 2004
Dear spank with love.
I am not spanked at home. But I know that I deserve a good over the knee bare bottom
spanking. I really feel extremly guilty for all the things that I have done over the
years. I was spanked when I was younger. I am now sixteen years old. I was wondering
if their was any advice that you could give me. I have heard about people called
disiplinarians, But I don't know how to get in touch with them. I need a good hard
spanking to feel better, please give me some good advice. I dunno what to do. PLEASE
respond, you may post this e-mail, but please do not post the e-mail [address].
Thank you Godbless.
(in another letter, dated March 7, 2004:)
Dear spank with love,
first of all I want to say how great and helpful your website is. Secondly I want to
say please do not post my e-mail [address], but you can however post this message. I am a
teenager who was spanked when I was a little kid. I was having the same trouble as
many of the other teens who wrote you letters. I needed and wanted to be spanked.
I have been being very disrespectful and swearing, saying bad comments, and back talking.
Anyway I knew that I needed to be spanked and thought of how I would be able to talk to
anyone about it without them thinking I was crazy. I am sixteen, I mean anyone I knew
would freak if I asked them to spank me. But I knew that I needed one. I would feel
guilty if I did not get a spanking. I have been reading about other teens who asked
thier parents and I can not do that. They would send me away to a syco hospital. I
NEED TO BE SPANKED, help me out. please do not post the e-mail. but please send me
Date: Saturday, February 14, 2004
Dear spank with love,
I found your page by chance on the net and I found it really interesting and educational
(please forgive some spelling mistakes since English is not my own ang)
I am a 20 years old girl who have never been spanked or grounded by my parents, but since
I still live in their house, (things are quite diferent in my country) I have to obey them.
We live in a very healthy enviroment of trust and love. I must admit, however, that sometimes
I did or do things they dont know about and Im sure they wouldn't like it.
Sometimes I thing it might be easier for me to stop feeling guilty for my mistakes and in
adittion to be able to forget about it. This days I fear they will find out what I did and
be disappointed. I do not fear a punishment more than I fear hurting my parents. So Im kind
of confused and sad and do not know what to do exactly. Could you please send me some advices?
Thank you very much, Gob bless you all. And please, do not publicate my name or email.
Subject: I hope you can help me
Date: Friday, February 13, 2004
Hello Spank with love
First let me say I think your site is great, very informative and insightful. I came across it
while searching for information about spanking and was amazed at how well thought out it is as
well as the number of other teens that are still spanked.
Before I go any further let me assure you I am not into spanking sexually or anything like that
as some might assume after reading what I have written.
I'm 18 almost 19 and live with both my parents in a pretty standard family situation. I get along
with my parents ok but sometimes we get in fights, and for as long as I can remember its never
really felt like a real family we arenít really close, we just kind of each do our own different
things. Theyíve spoiled me ever since I was little since I am an only child and never really
seriously disciplined me, I've never been grounded or even had to do any chores to help out.
Several years ago I wouldnít have cared at all and though it was great, but now I feel something
missing something I missed out on. I know I'm a pretty bratty person and a real jerk at times,
which Iím sure, is because of my easy upbringing. Iíve never done very well in school and never
really applied my self too much. So far I really havenít done much with my life and I think the
lace of a tight family has a major impact on that.
So I finally decided that something would have to change, I decided that I would talk to my parents
about taking more control over me, as I wasnít doing a very good job at it. So I began to look
around and research into forms of discipline that parents used especially on kids my age, and I
came across your site. At first I didnít even give getting spanked by my parents a second thought
especially for a person my age, but the more I looked over your site and realized that it had
worked and does work for so many other teenagers I started to think about it more. I finally
decided that spankings would work best for me out of all the other forms of discipline and now I
want to approach my parents about it. Which is why Iím mailing you Iím not sure how to go about
it as I donít want them to think Iím crazy or something. Also how do you think a person my age
should be spanked I know your anti implement from your site but I am almost 19 should it still
just be with the hand?
Anyways Iím sure your a busy person and get lots of mails but any information or ideas you could
give me would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks allot for reading
Subject: spanking website
Date: Thursday, February 12, 2004
(Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.)
I want to say that i am really proud of your website. I think more people in today's society
need to use corporal punishment. I was raised with corporal punishment and my wife and I have
used corporal punishment with our three sons. I disagree with these experts that say that spanking
your children will cause them to grow up to be aggressive and teach them to hit others. No what
teaches them to be this way is the violence on tv and what they are seeing in their homes and
from our liberal society today. I am also proud to say that I am a christian and believe in
christian values and principals. I have been very actice in my church and have helped a lot of
young men over the years that have needed a male role model and have helped a lot of single
mothers with their sons over the years. There was a single mother in our church that had two
sons and they gave her a hard time and were very disrescpectful with her. I became like a big
brother to both of them. I coached their badeball teams and they loved spending time with me.
As time went on she gave me permission to use corporal punishment on them. Her oldest son know
17 called her a fat b**ch in my presents one time and she asked me to spank him for her. He was
11 at the time. She told me that when she spanked or grounded her sons that they would laugh
at her or not take her serious. I agreeed to spank him for her. I asked her how she wanted me
to do it and she said for me to spank him like I woul one of my own sons. Well from then on I
have spanked both her sons for her when they needed it. To this day they still enjoy my company
and last summer we took both her sons on vacation with us. Her sister who lives a hundred miles
away sent her son two summers ago to live with us for six weeks and told me to straighten him up.
He now comes and stays with us and has become part of the family. I feel that single moms raising
boys sometimes need a helping hand. I would encourage all single moms who are having problems
raising their sons ask dor help from a male family member. Ask that male family member to spank
them I guarentee that they will see results. I have also enjoyed working with young men over
the years that are being raised by a single mom or grandparents. The moms and grandparents have
appreciated it also. I have developed some wonderful friendships with these families. Most of
the boys have stayed in contact with me an one who will be 20 this summer is getting married and
adked me to be his best man at his wedding. He has thanked me for the friendship and discipline
over the years and says that I was a true friend. He tells everyone that I am his big brother
and sometimes says that I am his best friend. I would like for you to post my e-mail address
and if their are any single moms or grandparents out their that would like my help or advice have
them contact me via my e-mail. I am always available and willing to help. I believe that single
parents have their hands full trying to support a family and raise their children and sometimes
need alittle extra help even if it is from a stranger that may become their child's best friend.
I had a single mom send her son to stay with us for four weeks and went he went back she said
that her sons attitude was greatly improved. She said that he wants to come back if he misbehaves
or come back to go on vacation with our family this summer. Thanks for your website and your
Subject: Spank with love site
Date: Sunday, February 8, 2004
For your "ask to be spanked" section.
Back in 8th grade I got grounded for a week which meant no going to a
big weekend baseball game. I begged and begged for my mom to let me go.
Finally she snapped back....it's that or a spanking. I walked away but
in a few minutes I came back and told her I would take a spanking so I
could go to the game. She told me to go downstairs into the den and wait
for her. A few minutes later she came down and grabbed a ping ping
paddle...sat on the sofa..and told me to lay across her lap. She then
told me that because I was a young man (13) and not a child she would
have to spank me harder. I don't know how many times she whacked my
butt...but it was a lot.... When she stopped and I was balling she said
we need to do this some more I got to go to the game but it was at a
By the way...she never did spank me again
Date: Saturday, February 7, 2004
hi I just wanted to say that you have a great website I enjoy reading all of
the feedbacks from everyone.
Subject: your web site
Date: Friday, February 6, 2004
Spanking teenagers is sick and disgusting as they are sexually mature, and doing
something to a teenager that can be sexually stimulating is sick.
And only doing it if they are ok with it, please. If a child grows up with spanking,
they may well have been conditioned to believe that they deserve to be treated that
way and that they deserve it, and lost self respect. What self-respecting teen or
older child will agree to bare their butt to get spanked? Only those that have been
conditioned to being treated that way. A teen may agree with it if the alternative
consequence is long and drawn out and they can get the punishment over with quickly.
Letting them get the punishment over with quickly is a bad Idea, because they don't
need to sit with the consequence for a while. The other reason that they may be ok
One of the negatives of spanking and other punishments is the kid gets numb to it
and gets conditioned to require harsher and harsher punishments to be effective.
The argument that spanking fetishes are innate is not likely. If it were it would
have to be genetic, and therefore would have to run in families. The only way that
could be proven is with twins research, you would have to find a number of twins
raised apart both with the spanking fetish where one was spanked and the other not.
While there are some people with spanking fetishes who were not spanked as kids,
some got aroused being slapped on the butt during sex and decided to explore it,
some wish they were spanked. I suspect that those that wish they were had some
underlying masochism in their character due to the way they were treated as children,
witnessed kids being spanked, and wish they had the spanking as an alternative to
the treatment they received.
Subject: Your web site.
Date: Friday, February 6, 2004
First Bare bottom spanking is sexually abusive and a serious physical sexual
boundary violation. Second people with a spanking fetish when asked when they
identified that they identified that they had those feelings, some identified
them as early as 6 or 7. One of the psychologists who has taken the stance that
some spanking is ok, only thinks that 2 swats over the clothes is non-abusive
and he thinks it is only appropriate between the ages of 2 and 6. After 6 he
thinks that spanking undermines healthy moral development. One researcher did
a flawed study trying to prove that mild-moderate spanking was ok, found that
a number of the children had the negative side effects that are usually associated
with more abusive spanking. Frankly I think your site reeks of a sick disturbed
mind. Thinking that ritualized spanking is ok is sickening. Thinking that making
a child epose him or herself to be spanked is ok, is sick and disturbed. Your
fascination with all the details makes me wonder if you get off sexually spanking
children and thinking about how to spank children. Your comments justifying bare
bottom spanking are sick and disturbing.
Here read some information
Subject: Use of the Flyswatter as a Spanking Implement
Date: Tuesday, February 3, 2004
Although I generally agree with your rating of spanking inplements, I must
disagree with your blacklisting the flyswatter. We have used the flyswatter
effectively on all our children up to the ages of about 7-9 years. One has
to be careful to lightly sand the edges to make sure there are no sharp mold
edges on the flyswatter and also make sure that the flyswatter has no raised
portions. They flyswatter sed for spanking should be used only for spanking
and its a good idea to but a couple of extras since they do wear out with the
most common flaw being that they get loose at the handle attach point.
We spank the children kneeling over a fair sized foot stool where they are well
supported. They are bare bottomed with pants and undies removed. The key to
the flyswatter is that it has almost no mass. Applying a hand/arm spanking can
really jar a young frame especially if the offence is major and the spanking
more severe/prolonged. The flyswatter tends to start light crying after 3-4
swats and can be applied for a longer - but still reasonable - duration to make
a major point. The joints are not jarred and the stinging/pain, which can be
substantial if the parent wishes, is all from the surface of the child's bottom
with no deep bruising.
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